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The common misconception that women naturally lose interest in sex as they age is debunked, as it is not a biological predisposition.
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- Dead bedroom marriages are more common than realized
- Believing that women don't like sex or age out of it is problematic
- Sexual shame can play a role in a woman's lack of interest in sex
- Communication and investigation are important in understanding the issue
- Women are not biologically made to hate sex
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Contrary to popular belief, women are not biologically programmed to dislike or lose interest in sex as they age.
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Many men believe that their wives lose interest in sex because women are biologically made to dislike it or age out of it. However, this assumption is without merit. Women are not biologically programmed to hate sex or lose interest in it as they age
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havent had sex with my wife in years. She lost interest a long time ago. Its miserable for me. But I guess thats the way of it. Men and women are made totally differently. Theres no fighting biology.
I cant count how many times Ive received comments or even emails (yeah, please stop sending those) like this.
Dead bedroom marriages seem to be a lot more common than I ever realized.
But I have to say, the amount of men who have concluded that their wives stopped wanting to have sex just because they are women, and all women either dont like sex at all, or dont like sex eventually, staggers me.
Biology
? Guys, have you actually researched this? Have you looked at studies about female sexuality? (Theyre not the
most accurate data
in the world, but its a good place to start.)
And perhaps more to the point: if youre leaving a comment or emailing me with a message like that, clearly you must be new here. Because if youve read my work before then you will already know that your statement is
without merit
If you fall into that camp, heres a piece of information that will be the best surprise youll have all week:
Women are
not
biologically made to hate sex, or to age out of it!
Oh how Id love to get into why its problematic that so many people, men especially, believe this in the first place, but I promised you all some answers, so Ill get on my anti-patriarchal propaganda soapbox another day. Today, lets stay focused on the issue at hand.
You havent had sex in years. Its time to investigate whats really going on here. Which means inviting your partner into conversation.
But before you do, make sure you have done some investigating on your own. Come to the table well-informed. Here are some things to consider.
Whats Really Going on When a Woman Doesnt Want Sex?
Sexual Shame
Do not underestimate the power of shame when it comes to a womans experience of her sexuality. I cannot imagine a single woman
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