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The article addresses the problem of men displaying either passivity or aggression when it comes to physical intimacy with their spouses.
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- Men who are aggressive and unempathic in bed are advised not to be touched by their wives.
- Women have the right to choose whether to have sex and can decide at any time during an encounter.
- Some women do not touch their husbands because of aggressive and unempathic men.
- The majority of men do not think it is acceptable to force their partners to continue sex.
- It is important for women to recognize that not all men believe they need to finish if they start.
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The article discusses the issue of men being too passive or aggressive in their approach to physical intimacy with their wives.
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The excerpt is from an article titled "If Kissing Is An Implicit Sexual Contract, This Is Why Your Wife Doesn't Touch You" by Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten. It discusses the issue of men being too passive or aggressive in their approach
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If Kissing Is An Implicit Sexual Contract, This Is Why Your Wife Doesnt Touch You
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The majority of men who read my stuff err on the side of being too passive and
scared of what their wives think
. However, there are many other men that can be aggressive and unempathic. A lot of my work focuses on helping women understand that men consider sex a need and is their way to show love. However, if you have been aggressive in bed or if you push your wife to continue physical contact that she doesnt want, you are moving yourself into the small category of men whose wives I recommend not to touch them. What does this look like?
If your wife has ever tried to stop a sexual encounter and you guilt trip her into continuing
If there is some idea that if your wife makes you hard, she has to finish the job
If your wife would not bet a million dollars that you would stop sex if she said stop (or used a safe word)
If you think that a mid-encounter no is a negotiation starting place
In any of these cases, your wife is advised NOT TO EVER TOUCH YOU. You are not the intended audience of my posts, because you do not have any empathy for your wife and you are forcing her into sex against her will.
The reason that some women do not ever touch their husbands is because of these guys, who are ruining it for the rest of guys. Here are things people are allowed to do:
Choose whether they have sex
Choose at any time during an encounter
Decide whether foreplay is just not working and they are feeling too sick/tired/upset to have sex after all
Choose not to do it even if you think thats some unfair bullshit
If you are a woman who sadly has only been with guys that think if you start you need to finish, let me be very clear that this is not the majority of men and you have likely been drawn to selfish and unempathic men because
you were treated poorly as a kid or saw a parent treated poorly
. The large majority of men will sulk if you stop sex, lets say, a minute before they are going to climax, but they do not think of it as a possibility to force you to continue. It is like how you are upset about your child misbehaving but you dont
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