Summary HOW I CONSCIOUSLY SEARCHED FOR and FOUND THE LOVE OF MY LIFE…and how you can too! thedawninglight.substack.com
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After years of solitude, the person focused on self-love, corresponded with 400 women, visualized their beloved, and ultimately found their destined partner.
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Key Points
- Consciously develop a love relationship with yourself first, as it is impossible to have a great love relationship with your beloved until you have a growing real one with yourself
- Get crystal clear about the qualities and character of your ideal beloved by creating a "My Ideal Beloved and Love Relationship Workbook" and constantly refining it
- Pray through constantly to be brought together with your beloved in the right way at the right time, and to be shown what you need to do to prepare for the coming beloved
- Recognize that your beloved is right now looking for you, longing to meet you and wanting to come together with you
- Believe that if you are willing to do the work needed, you will be brought together with your heart's ideal beloved, as this is how God works
- Understand that a great love relationship is not a "happily ever after" story, but rather a vital part of your individual spiritual path where you learn the lessons of how to love and care for each other
- Recognize that you are loveable and deserve to be loved and appreciated
Summaries
26 word summary
After years alone, I focused on self-love before consciously searching. Over 4 years, I corresponded with 400 women, visualized my beloved, and found my destined partner.
51 word summary
After years alone, I focused on self-love before consciously searching for my life partner. Over 4 years, I corresponded with 400 women, went on 100 dates, and visualized my beloved. In 2009, my destined partner reached out, and we connected deeply. Real love requires constant work to heal what's unlike itself.
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After years of being single, I realized I wanted to find my life partner. I focused on self-love and becoming a great companion before manifesting one. In 2005, I consciously began my search, corresponding with 400 women and going on 100 dates. After four years, I relaxed into patience, visualizing my beloved. One evening in 2009, my destined beloved reached out, and we connected deeply. Our journey has required constant work, as real love brings up everything unlike itself to be healed. The key is to develop self-love, get clear on your ideal partner, and pray constantly to be brought together in the right way and time. Your beloved is out there, looking for you and wanting to come together.
347 word summary
After years of being single, I realized I wanted to find my destined life partner - a companion and best friend to share my life and grow in love together. I knew this person existed, and I could work through a process to bring us together.
First, I focused on learning to love, respect and appreciate myself. This healing process helped me become free of past failed relationships and self-sufficient. I was determined to meet my beloved from a place of true self-love, not neediness. I had to become a great companion myself before manifesting one.
In 2005, I consciously began my search, praying, healing, and improving myself daily. I wrote detailed posts about who I was and the kind of partner I sought, eventually corresponding with 400 women and going on about 100 dates. I was unwavering in my commitment to find my ideal match, refusing to settle for anything less.
After four years of dedicated work, I had relaxed into patience. I knew the Divine was orchestrating our meeting in the right time and way. I visualized what my beloved would be like, preparing myself for the radical shift from being alone to being with my life partner.
One evening in 2009, when I least expected it, my destined beloved reached out. We met that very night, and I immediately recognized her as the one. We connected deeply, began working together the next day, and chose to share our lives ever since. However, our story is not a "happily ever after." Real love brings up everything unlike itself to be healed, and our journey has required constant work.
The key things I would share are: 1) Develop a deep love relationship with yourself first. 2) Get crystal clear on the qualities of your ideal beloved. 3) Pray constantly to be brought together with your beloved in the right way and time. Dear one, you deserve to have your heart's longing for love fulfilled. If you're willing to do the work, I believe your beloved is out there, looking for you and wanting to come together.
464 word summary
After years of being single, I realized I wanted to find my destined life partner - a companion and best friend to share my life and grow in love together. I knew this person existed, and I could work through a process to bring us together.
First, I focused on learning to love, respect and appreciate myself. This healing process helped me become free of past failed relationships and self-sufficient. I was determined to meet my beloved from a place of true self-love, not neediness. I had to become a great companion myself before manifesting one.
In 2005, I consciously began my search, praying, healing, and improving myself daily. I wrote detailed posts about who I was and the kind of partner I sought, eventually corresponding with 400 women and going on about 100 dates. I was unwavering in my commitment to find my ideal match, refusing to settle for anything less.
After four years of dedicated work, I had relaxed into patience. I knew the Divine was orchestrating our meeting in the right time and way. I visualized what my beloved would be like, preparing myself for the radical shift from being alone to being with my life partner.
One evening in 2009, when I least expected it, my destined beloved reached out. We met that very night, and I immediately recognized her as the one. We connected deeply, began working together the next day, and chose to share our lives ever since. She fulfilled everything on my list - a true divine match.
However, our story is not a "happily ever after." Real love brings up everything unlike itself to be healed, and our journey has required constant work. We've faced many challenges that have forced us to grow, improve, and resolve issues together. Our relationship is integral to our individual spiritual paths, as we learn the lessons of loving and caring for each other.
The key things I would share are:
1) Develop a deep love relationship with yourself first. You can only love another to the degree you love yourself.
2) Get crystal clear on the qualities of your ideal beloved. Create a "My Ideal Beloved" workbook, listing everything you want - physical, character, spirituality, life, etc. Refine this list daily to clarify your true desires.
3) Pray constantly to be brought together with your beloved in the right way and time, that you recognize each other, and that you're both ready. Ask the Divine to show you the steps to create space for this to happen.
Dear one, you deserve to have your heart's longing for love fulfilled. If you're willing to do the work, I believe your beloved is out there, looking for you and wanting to come together. My prayer is that it happens for you soon!
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HOW I CONSCIOUSLY SEARCHED FOR and FOUND THE LOVE OF MY LIFE...and how you can too!
After many years of being single, I realized that I wanted and needed to find my destined beloved who would be my companion and best friend as we learned to share our lives and live in Love together. I knew that having this intense desire to have a close, loving and ever-growing relationship meant that the person I was destined to be with existed, was out there for me, and that I could patiently work a process that would bring us together.
I focused on learning to love, respect and appreciate myself first. Loving myself brought a lot of healing, helped me become free of past failed relationships, and become self-sufficient. I was absolutely determined to meet and be with my heart's beloved, not from a needy, hurting space, but from a truly loving space. I knew I had to be secure in my own self and life instead of my old pattern of trying to make someone love me so I would feel lovable and worthy. To manifest the great companion, I had to BECOME a great companion myself first.
When I consciously decided to focus on finding my beloved, I launched my search in 2005 and worked on it every day. I prayed through, constantly worked on healing and improving myself, and actually wrote clearer and clearer posts about who I am, the kind of woman I was looking for, and my dreams of the life and work I wanted to offer and share. I eventually corresponded with 400 women, went on about 100 dates, and constantly refined my search as I went through the process. From the outset, I dedicated myself to finding the beloved who really matched me at every level and vowed to myself and God that I would not settle for anything less than my ideal.
After four years of daily work on this, I had relaxed, wasn't pushing, was being totally accepting and simply getting on with being there for my children and living my best life. I was ready, but not anxious. I was patient, as I had heard from my inner guidance that the Divine was working to bring me and the beloved together, but that it could only happen in God's timing, in the right way at the right time. I was prepared to wait, even if it took years. Meanwhile, I imagined what it would be like to meet and come together with my beloved, visualizing what she looked like, her character, her interests, even the sound of her voice. I kept preparing myself because I knew that our coming together would be a sudden and radical shift from being alone to being with the love of my life.
One evening in late summer of 2009, when I least expected it, my destined beloved emailed a short response to my posting which included her picture and an invitation to call so we could see what was possible. We arranged to meet for the first time that very night in a public place, and as we were walking towards each other, I immediately recognized her and knew that she was the beloved sent by the Divine. We talked for hours, started working together the next morning, and chose to share our lives together ever since. She is the fulfillment of everything I had on my list, and our relationship is the vehicle for our maximum spiritual growth as the Divine intended.
However, our story is not a "happily ever after" one. We have had to work on our relationship every day since, as we both have much healing to do. Real Love brings up everything unlike itself to be healed, and our coming together was just the beginning of our long journey. We have been through so many challenges and crisis points that have forced us to improve, change and grow to resolve them. Our relationship is a vital part of our individual spiritual paths as we are learning the lessons of how to love and care and be there for each other.
The three key things I would share with anyone who wants to have a great love relationship with their destined beloved are:
1) Consciously develop an ever-deepening love relationship with yourself first. It is impossible to have a great love relationship with your beloved until you have a growing real one with yourself. Others can only love you and you can only love them to the degree you love yourself.
2) Get crystal clear about the qualities and character of your ideal beloved. Set up a "My Ideal Beloved and Love Relationship Workbook" and list everything you want, including physical description, age, character, spirituality, work and their life, where they live, etc. Read your list out loud to yourself at least once a day, constantly refining it as you get clearer. This is how you find out for yourself what you really want on every level and how you tell the divine.
3) Pray through constantly to be brought together with your beloved in the right way at the right time, that you recognize each other, that you are both ready and capable of having a great love relationship, and to show you what you need to do to prepare for the coming beloved and the steps you need to take to create space for this to happen.
Dear one, you totally deserve to have all the longing for love that you have in your heart to be fulfilled! I believe that if you are willing to do the work needed, you will be brought together with your heart's ideal beloved, because this is how God works. Your beloved is right now looking for you, longing to meet you and wanting to come together with you. My prayer for you is that it happens soon!